What exactly is love?
What exactly is love? I think this is a concept that is quite vague to almost everyone. In fact, love does not have an exact definition to begin with. It is a sweet feeling that exists between lovers, making you involuntarily lift the corners of your mouth and bloom with joy every time you think about it. Or it is an elf called happiness, and anyone who encounters it can maintain a pleasant mood, with joyful notes even beating in the blood. Or it is a seed, planted in the right person, watered and cared for with heart, and then it will bloom into beautiful flowers and bear the fruits of happiness. It is a stimulant that makes those who encounter it act foolishly, with unlimited passion and courage to face all challenges. However, love can also be a medicine, which, although it can cure diseases, also has side effects. The various conflicts, quarrels, suspicions, and sadness that come with love are all side effects of love itself. But this does not affect people’s pursuit and admiration of love. Otherwise, from ancient times until now, there would not have been so many exquisite poems and verses describing love by literati. Moreover, I believe that a life without love is not a perfect life. A life without love is not a real life.
Does love have a shelf life?
Does love have a shelf life? If so, how long is it? I believe that love itself may have its own lifespan, but when it gradually loses its original fragrance, it does not die a desolate death but sublimates happily into a kind of kinship. Some people say that transforming into kinship means the death of love. I disagree. Like a well-known metaphor, when love evolves into kinship, and lovers become the relationship of your left and right hands, it is the pinnacle of love. Because, no matter which hand it is, it needs the company of the other. Without either, the body is no longer complete. Can you say it is unimportant? Therefore, love is always in its shelf life. I remember a teacher of mine once said, “When you view all things with a poetic heart, all things become poetry.” So, I want to say, how long do you want your love to last, and it will last that long.
Choose love or choose marriage?
I remember I mentioned a similar question in a blog post before. Some loves cannot withstand the test of life and naturally have to die under the harsh hoof of life. While some marriages can breed love. Therefore, choosing the right love for marriage is the most important. Because happiness is not an accidental chemical reaction in love. In marriage, it is even more important to find the fire that continues to burn. So “finding the right person” is particularly important. Only in the “right person” can the ignited flame allow you to see the full picture of the relationship, from the starting point to the end.
What does a happy marriage need?
Love
A happy marriage needs love. Not a passionate love, but a love that has many ways of expression, such as care, affection, and cherishing. From a woman’s perspective, whether she is a strong woman in her career or a homemaker in life, she cannot do without the desire for love deep down. In fact, love in marriage can sometimes be very simple. Just a simple hug, a considerate greeting, a sincere look, a glass of boiled water, a bowl of instant noodles, a short message, an affirmation, a knowing smile, all of these can make the woman around you happy for a while, or even a lifetime. The important thing is to have an infinite love for your wife in your heart. And men, facing the dual pressures from family and work, are very hard and more vulnerable, needing love even more. Like an injured child in need of comfort, so as a wife, one must know how to cherish and love her husband.
Understanding and Tolerance
Do not do to others what you do not want done to yourself; this saying also applies to marriage. After experiencing the ups and downs of love and then the ins and outs of life, we inevitably rush between work and home every day for a living. When your partner cannot care for you more due to fatigue, learn to understand. Try to be tolerant when facing those little quirks you dislike. It is even more important to remember the mistakes that most people in marriage or love will make, that is, there is more or less an image of your virtual other half in your heart, and you expect him or her to become the image in your mind. You can expect, but you cannot force. If you really love him, tolerate his shortcomings. Because, since you have chosen the one you like, why bother trying to change him? Moreover, loving partners are educating each other in quite different ways. What we learn from another person is precisely the part we find lovely about them, and the lovely aspects of a loved one will have a positive impact on us.